The unlikely Mistress, pt. IV

Not much to tell.

She flunked out of SL, ostensibly because she is busy.

Thus yet another collar ends with the most likely resolution of: Disappeared Mistress.

End of story.

Quick update and the quirks of SL land owning

This past week has not been especially eventful. After our last Sunday/Monday meeting Mistress expressed a wish for more plants on the beach so I made sure to redecorate there and also arranged for a few more cuddle spots that we will hopefully get to try out soon. I have to say I quite like how things turned out, gives the whole beach a more tropical flair. 

Only downside is... prims. As any land owner may tell you there is never enough prims, especially if you have a smaller plot like this 1024 m² parcel I can have with my Premium account. It sounds a lot and is definitely a quantum step away from the 117 prims you could have back in the dark ages of SL, like 14 years ago, where you also were only entitled to own a 512 m² plot with your premium. These figures relate to owning land on mainland and without having to pay land use fees. 

One way of extending the size of your plot (and the number of your prims) would be making use of the group bonus. If you make a group and deed it to the group, the group gets a nice 10% bonus, so in my case that would increase the plot size up to 1120. Why 1120 you may ask. 10% off 1024 is 102.4, so that should be 1126.2, right? The Lindens are cheating!

Umm, well, that is one way of seeing it. However, as so often in SL, things are not quite that simple. The minimum size for any plot is 16 m² so the 10% bonus gets reduced to the next possible multiple of 16, which, incidentally, is exactly 6 x 16 m² = 96 m2. 1024 + 96 = 1120. q.e.d.

The unseemly Art of the Error

How many errors are you supposed to make? None.

How many errors are you supposed to make as a submissive? Even less.

And how many errors are you bound to make? Many. Tons.

However, to err is human. Or so they say.

In a way, that is consoling, and yet each time I make one it makes me feel bad, low, because it feels like I let her down. I want to make Mistress proud and not be a disappointment. 

Her way of letting me argue my case when we have our weekly meeting is not exactly helping even if I think I'm getting a little better at it.

In any case I have spent some time thinking about errors, how they happen and how to prevent them and of course also what consequences they may and should have.

Reasons for errors can be manifold:

- unclear rules, or maybe overly complicated ones; from personal experience I can say that clear and simple rules are more likely to be followed; of course errors can still happen
- lack of focus; we all get distracted, confused, bored or sleepy at times, and you are most likely to make errors in that phase
- lack of internalization; that's a tricky one. As I learned recently you can have rules that you accept... because that is what your owner wants. However, that doesn't mean that you do or want to internalize that rule, especially if you find the rule not to make much sense in the first place. That issue can either be solved by adapting the rule so it is more palatable or driving it home and make sure that the ruled party internalizes it - by whatever means.

In any case I'm glad that the rule I was struggling with was revoked by my Mistress. 

The unlikely Mistress, pt. III

So as the benevolent reader may have gathered in the meantime (not least due to the fact that I wrote about it in the last installment) .... these days I am collared to Susan. Since May 2nd to be precise. And honestly I have not regretted my decision for a split-second.

However, in many ways that came as a big surprise. 

I've never had much luck with dommes. Many I just can't connect with and the ones I found appealing often did not want me or... even worse, flaked out on me after a short time. I honestly can't tell when last things felt this right AND held out too. Granted, I have met a few very competent and knowledgeable doms and cherish the time I had with them. I am not afraid to admit that I owe so much to Eden and Kaspar. However, they have been rare exceptions.

I mean I have not worn my collar for a full three weeks and yet everything feels just so right and Susan is pushing me in just the right ways and I'm forever grateful for having her in my life. So much so that at some point when we were talking about exactly this topic I called her my "unlikely Mistress". Because I had met so many "dommes" and would-be dommes over the last few years that I had long since basically given up hope of finding a mistress who would be compatible. Who would take the time and energy to get to know me and take me for who and what I am without judgement and work with me to bring out the best in me. And I think that is exactly what makes Susan so precious. 

It is what she does. And I will be forever grateful.

The unlikely Mistress, pt. II

 

So I met Susan in February and as we got to know each other better I came to view her mostly as a friend. She is unconventional, open-minded and fun. But for a long while I found it hard to picture her as my mistress. To a degree that's down to her being such a sweet and kind person. However, that's not all.

I know I have met my share of dominants and in many cases you can feel the dominance right away. A well-kept appearance, the way they talk, their mindset focused on control, very self-controlled, things like that. With that kind of people it is relatively easy to see yourself in a submissive way. However, that doesn't mean these people are better dominants than others. I remember a friend of mine looked super sweet, but was a very imaginative, quick-witted domme. 

So what you see is not always what you get. And in Susan's case this is very true. She loves making long-reaching plans. And of course when it became clear that we were gravitating toward each other she had one for me. I would get my collar from her three months after meeting. And this is exactly what happened. So on May 2nd the big day had come and she gave me her collar in a small ceremony and I have not looked back one time since.

And about Susan ... one of her best traits is how she is developing her own take on domination and her eagerness to learn plus her willingness to discuss her ideas. I can always calmly tell her what I think, in fact she is asking me to do so and she will draw her conclusions and often change her mind. That is an extremely refreshing experience.